Visitor

My mother is here for about a month. It is nice to have here to get to know her grandchildren and to help me some during the day. I wish that she lived closer or that we could move someplace either near her or completely away from all family. That way we won't have a "power struggle" over the babies by living close to only one side of their family. Not that the family they have here is all that interested in them. Only their grandparents have an interest and that is when my husband's sister is not interfering, which has happened, a lot. It seems that even on the smallest level myself and now my children will never be completely accepted.

At least I can insulate the babies from all of it. Unfortunately that means keeping them from having a family life. If we lived elsewhere this would not be a problem. But we live here and are expected to attend events. I just don't see the reason to attend when our babies are not even acknowledged. I remember one time when my husband had plans to be out of town during a "family event". He had made the comment that he was not here the last time, but his sister politely but rudely reminded him that he "lives here know so he needs to attend". Needless to say, we stayed in town to make it work. Now, "we live here now" but are treated as if it would be best if we did not.